I beat myself up a lot.
I always see the things I missed. The mistakes I made. The embarrassing way I goofed up. The silly thing I said. The important thing I totally forgot to do.
I see them all.
They glare at me in my mind’s eye, tsk-tsk at me through my computer monitor, scold me between the lines in emails I read, and badger me in restless thoughts as I lie down to sleep at night.
When I think about my mistakes, I usually feel stupid. naive. foolish. Like I shouldn’t have bothered trying and what on earth was I thinking, anyways?
Maybe you feel the same way.
Maybe the mistakes you’ve made have a way of haunting you, or convincing you that you’re not cut out for this or you’re irrelevant or you don’t have what it takes.
But what if that’s not what our mistakes said about us at all?
Tonight I opened a newsletter written by a dear friend. Like me, she knows the struggle, uncertainty and risk of living an intentional yet unconventional life. She’s an entrepreneur, a writer, a creator, and an innovator.
I’m pretty sure she’s no stranger to making mistakes.
Which might be why she chose this quote with which to christen the new year:
And as I read it tonight, I drew in a sharp breath, full of strength and hope and truth.
You see, these past couple months, I’ve been making new things. Doing Something that I’m a little bit scared of doing. Something I’ve never done before.
I’m making mistakes and plenty of them. And for sure, I’m also doing things right. Lots of things, most likely, but it’s the mistakes that play through my mind like an old-fashioned movie reel on repeat.
The life of an entrepreneur, if you’re actually living out the vision and calling you have within yourself, will be riddled with mistakes. You can count on it.
And we get to choose how we feel about them.
We can listen to the accusations of those mistakes and feel them deeply, reverently, and shamefully.
We can let them tell us who we are and who we aren’t and what we should and shouldn’t do.
We can let them define us and shush us and stop us from doing the world-changing work that’s in our soul.
But we shouldn’t.
This year, I want us to let our mistakes remind us that we are:
I want us to let our mistakes define us as people who are:
and fully alive
So let’s get out there and make a whole lot more mistakes this year, my friends.
Need a great read to inspire you further? I just finished Brene Brown’s Rising Strong and it’s a perfect book to begin 2016 with.